Stop Trying to be Better
"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb" Psalm 139:13.
I keep praying to be better. A better sister. A better daughter. A better friend. A better coworker. And while I think the sentiment of these prayers comes from a genuine place of wanting to love those around me better, it’s also a little off-kilter. Each time I say I want to be better, what I’m really saying is that I think I’m not good enough. True, all of us can probably put in a little more effort in here or there, but we are the unique beings that God created us to be, flaws and all.
That’s the mercy of the cross. That we are enough, and that none of us is “better” than the other. No matter how much we strive, we can’t be worth more in God’s eyes because he loves us just as we are. That doesn’t mean that God doesn’t want us to grow. But it’s much sweeter to grow from a place of wanting to bloom in your full unique glory, rather than straining to be taller and fuller from a place of believing you’re worthless as you are.
This is a reminder, dear friend, that you cannot be any better than you are in this moment. You can know more, laugh more, listen more, and a million other things more, but you can’t be better. You are enough. The more often you rest in the security of that truth, the more peace and love you will be able to share with others, growing without even thinking about it.
God, help me to be at peace with who I am. I obviously have a lot of deep rooted insecurities I don’t even know about! Wipe them all away. May I feel the truth that I am enough today.
WRITTEN BY SARAH WITMER