When Your Husband Cheats: Part 2

"Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand"  Ephesians 6:13.

We had just had our first child. I was wrapped up in being a new mom- juggling a job and having my seemingly perfect little family. From the outside we looked content, adjusting well to this new season of life. Looking back, I can now see that God was clearly not the center of our home. As we ignored the signs of this, the foundation of our marriage slowly started to crack, leaving us little stability in case a Midwest tornado blew in.  

While I silently struggled with postpartum depression, my husband was dealing with demons of his own, and our communication was becoming nonexistent. We had gone months without connecting in any way, and certain behaviors of his were putting my "wife radar" on high alert.  Unfortunately, by then I was too late to stop anything. My husband was having an affair. Our foundation (in only a matter of months) had become rubble.  

As the “for better” part of marriage started to fade, my best friend was no longer protecting my heart. He began to believe our marriage was all a lie and that marrying me was something he never wanted. This bump in the road was becoming a mountain I wasn’t sure I could even climb.  I didn’t sign up for this! I signed up for a partnership and my partner was falling headfirst off a cliff. 

For better or worse? Of course I meant it, I just never expected the worst.  If I wanted to keep this marriage alive I was going to have to suit up and get ready for the battle of a lifetime. Thankfully Jesus understands covenant and relationship. Not only was He ready and waiting to catch my rebellious partner, He also was ready to step in and become my partner while mine was becoming ensnared in a quarter-life-crisis.  

Father, thank you for helping me stand my ground when I felt there was no more ground to stand on. In your arms is where I always want to be. Surround any women whose foundations are crumbling right now. May you be their partner when they feel like they have no one else. 

WRITTEN BY LYRYN YACOE