When Your Husband Cheats: Part 5

“And He who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.  And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” Romans 8: 27-28

While driving, my husband and I often glance back to look at our four boys. Even amidst the arguing we say to ourselves, “This is our life. We made them and I’m so grateful we are doing this together.” You see, we could have lost everything. Glancing back is a reminder of God's faithfulness. He restored a covenant that was practically on life-support.

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Nine years ago my husband cheated on me. It was hard to believe in much of anything back them. I knew I couldn’t handle this, but I also knew that God could. Day-by-day we worked hard to slowly rebuild the foundation of the marriage we had both contributed to cracking. But this time, we were going to build it back with stronger reinforcements.

First, we needed a concrete foundation in God. We saw how comfortable we had become in our walk with Jesus - too comfortable. We needed to be seeking Him daily and putting Him first in our home. 

Then, we reinforced the covenant with steel framing. We chose to start putting one another first. We began making the effort to start speaking one another’s love language so that our needs wouldn’t go unmet. 

Around our new home we installed boundaries to reinforce protection so that we would never get ourselves in this situation again. Those guidelines are still followed today, no matter how much we trust one another. As we started to re-furnish our home, we agreed that we would never sweep our past under the new rugs from Target, and would always be open and honest about our difficult past so that we could be a support for others walking through something like this.    

By choosing one another we didn’t lose anything. We gained everything.

As each year passes, we roll another coat of healing throughout our home. It hasn’t been easy, but it has been so worth it. We've made a lot of mistakes along the way, but that new foundation we laid nine years ago has become an amazing home we now raise our four beautiful boys in. Every day when I look at my children I'm reminded how good my God really is. I know my life wouldn't be as rich as it is today without the unfailing love of the Father.  

Loving Father - Thank you for your faithfulness! Even in our sin, hurt, and pain, you still love us and still want all of it to work for good in our lives. I will never stop praising You for this!

WRITTEN BY LYRYN YACOE