When Your Husband Cheats: Part 1

"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins” 1 Peter 4:8.

I was "that" girl. The girl who found the love of her life at fifteen. The girl who married her high school sweetheart. The girl who loved the Lord, went to church every Sunday, and found a Godly man to spend the rest of her life with. I was that girl. I was also the girl who said “it could never happen to us.”  

I had seen people in my life be unfaithful over and over again. Even my husband saw firsthand what infidelity could do to a family after experiencing his own father being unfaithful to his mom. I thought my husband and I were untouchable. We knew what happened to others around us – we were going to make darn certain we didn’t have it happen to us. I mean, after all, how could anyone do that to the person they loved most in the world? How could you say you love Jesus if you do that to your spouse?” {Insert emoji Face Palm} 

Affairs happen more often than we would all like to admit.  Infidelity statistics suggest that over one-third of marriages are affected today. Those of us who have walked through an affair almost always do everything in our power to quietly deal with the situation. We want to move on as quickly as we can, so as not to draw any suspicion that our good Christian family might have a dirty little secret. It can be a very sad and lonely place to be in, especially in the Christian community where the subject of infidelity is one where God allows divorce. People who think they know best will quickly tell you "once a cheater, always a cheater." 

If I could tell “that” girl just a few things, I would tell her that I loved her. I would tell her that Jesus loves her more deeply than she can ever imagine and that He will never leave her. I would tell her that marriage can be hard work but if you fight for it daily it will provide the greatest reward. I would give her a hug and whisper in her ear, “Always remember that His love covers over all you are about to face.”

God, even through my arrogance, the storms and multitude of sins, You continue to love me. Thank you for always being there and never letting go. 


Sarah Witmer